Receiving The Egg

Receiving is an art. There are a variety of different techniques and practices we can use to receive the egg and to sensitize the various reflex zones within the vaginal canal with the egg; however initially the first ways to work with the egg are to simply to prepare the egg and yourself, and then hold the egg to the entrance of your vaginal canal (using the large/engraved end first), and begin to feel whether your body is receiving the egg, or resisting the egg away slightly. If you aren’t sure how this will feel in your body, you can scroll down to read a little bit about how a “yes”, “maybe”, and “no” feels.
The most important distinction around receiving the egg is to understand the various nuances that the energetic system, and the body, have between them, and learn to be fluid with the messages we are receiving. Patience and understanding is important with the jade egg practice; remember that you cannot by-pass your Self in order to come closer to your Self. Sometimes impatience and frustration can occur when we feel we are receiving mixed messages from our intuition and our body - for example, you may feel a strong draw towards your egg one evening - and then when you try to receive her into your yoni, you may find your body does not want the egg. This is not a mixed message - this is the message. Try to delve deeper - perhaps your intuition is drawing you work and connect with the egg for emotional or energetic healing - perhaps by placing the egg on your womb, but not forcing your body to receive the egg internally at this stage. Whatever the message is, one element of spiritual growth is our capacity to hold, in a faithful and patient way, that multiple truths express simultaneously and that this does not “break” the coherence of our journey, but rather “makes” the journey. We must learn to read the subtle signs and feel the subtle energies of our sexual-spiritual journey - which also means learning patience at times, to move at and with the slowest part of our Selves and their communication. Remember, you have a whole lifetime to explore where this practice can take you. ✨

What is a “no”?

A “no” from your body can manifest in a variety of ways. One of the most common forms of a “no” is that you will find you are not able to generate arousal, and that your body is not “opening” for the egg. Rather, it may even feel that your body and base is closing and pushing the egg away, as you hold the egg to the entrance of your vaginal canal. One of the most common ways people experience as beginners in their practice is that they felt a “yes” but their body pushed the egg out straight away. In Golden Lotus, we say that if the egg is pushed out at some stage, it means your body is finished with it. You will find multiple different sources online which tell your that it is indicative of your muscles being weak, etc. and that the trick is to strengthen them so you can hold the egg inside; this is not true, and the more advanced you become in an energetically advanced (versus physiotherapy style pelvic exercise) jade egg practice, the more evident this will become. What is true is that in situations where we feel overwhelmed, afraid, or lose our voice or sense of power, then the egg can simply drop out. This is a true - and in this case it is advisable to not attempt to insert the egg again until you have left that situation and are in a more comfortable space where it feels safe to be sexually activated and in your power, so that you can learn this alignment in a safe space, and then slowly bring this into other spaces with you.

What if I feel a “maybe” or no decision?

Sometimes when we are using the egg, there is no specific invitation or decline from your body. There are a variety of reasons that this may happen. Ultimately, even the muscular/physiological sensations of a “yes” or “no” are responding to the energy which generates and stimulates them. Therefore, it’s possible that in the beginning stages of your practice, you haven’t yet built a strong energetic connection with your base, and your body isn’t responding. Sometimes this is just due to the way we live and the fact that we aren’t pelvic central or even overtly spiritual in most of the modern world - and it takes time to grow these muscles (literally, energetically and metaphorically speaking). In this case you can simply choose if you wish to proceed and see how you feel with the egg inside, or you can choose to do more arousal and connection practices until such time as the message becomes clear. This is something you need to follow yourself for - ultimately. Each has different benefits and affects; sometimes upon receiving the egg internally, women immediately begin to have strong sensations and responses they were not having while the egg was held at the entrance of the vaginal canal. Other times - usually - the latter is the right suggestion to follow to generate a strong spiritual and energetic connection with your jade egg and your sexual-spiritual practice. Sometimes this connection to our invitation has been broken because of heart-break, physical trauma, or abuse. In the event or instance that you feel this could be true for you, then perhaps the Golden Lotus Online Temple practices of sensitising your pelvic bowl and clearing trauma from the body could be more effective as a guided beginning to your sexuality practices than the jade egg itself. Alternately, refer to the “Connecting to the Egg” and “Breast Massage” practices, and perhaps some of the Resources in the Resource section to develop a stronger sense and more in depth understanding of the processes which can aid your development prior to using the jade egg. The jade egg can (re)activate trauma, meaning it is a beautiful tool to work with and through traumatic issues - but also meaning that if we do not have the tools to effectively regulate, it could become a situation which hinders your growth, or re-traumatises rather than heals and aids.

what is a “yes”?

If you have experienced a true yes from your energy and your body simultaneously there is no real need to read an answer this question; the Yes is indelible and undeniable and comes from deep within our body and Being. However, for those of us who are curious to know what that experience looks like but have yet to receive it from our body, it can be described as anything from a very easy entering of the egg with no resistance and minor pulsing of the entrance of the vaginal canal, to the experience of the egg being sucked inside without our guidance. During more advanced stages, it becomes an intimate and deep wetness and desire, even a cervical level pull, towards the egg which draws us deep into our body.
Overall, the most common marker of a “yes” is that the egg will not just slip inside, but will be pulled inside. In Ancient China the concubines would take a flaccid penis into their vaginal, and massage it through their own mastery of their pleasure muscles. Many reported this form of “penetration” was more enjoyable than being penetrated in a standard way. This goes to show the level of activation and desire when our body is drawing energy inwards is a part of the true art of pleasure. Similarly, with the jade egg, when there is a deep desire for the egg and to experience one’s Self in all of it’s bliss and sensation, then the energetic draw is almost immediately orgasmic, rolling, pulsing, and energising.